The beauty of an argument is simple.  The temperature rises and melts away barriers.  You get a reason to respond to not just a reason to walk away from. 

It is important to prepare for an argument, especially in our world of second and third removed reasons.  We avoid disagreements.  Seek consent.  I have several clients who like to argue.  I enjoy those discussions.

Gloves off.  That is the best approach.  Nothing personal, but candor is key.  When we sense a lack of candor, there is the poke.  There is always that moment. . .when you are called to defend.  An honest person concedes some points; counters others with an honest counterpoint.

The rules are simple.  A frank discussion is about to be held.  Comments will be made.  You will be asked to respond.  You will make comments.  I will be asked to respond.  And we will end the argument when it is over.  Set a time if you like.

I have several friends with whom I can argue.  In the end we wind up with a better understanding of each other's views.  We truly understand.  And then it is over.  Refreshing.