Suck it up

It is a generational shift, I am sure.  I'm just not sure which generation started the shift from "thinking" to "feeling," but I dread the common equating of the two.  Imagine these situations:

- You are having a meeting to discuss a new corporate policy.  A hand is raised, the individual is recognized and starts speaking - "I feel that. . ."

- You receive a letter from a group soliciting money for a worthy project.  Buried in the text is the phrase "our committee feels that this project. . ."

- You are working to improve a process.  An intelligent person says "I feel that we could cut down on errors if. . ."

When did "feel" become synonymous with "think"?  They are distinct verbs.  "Something felt wrong about the whole experience."  "I just didn't feel right being there."  "I think that we would benefit from this project because. . ."  You get the point.  Feeling is perceiving while thinking is reasoning.  Both are valuable but not the same.

I think that the same generation which blended thinking and feeling also became so focused on "feeling like" doing something before ever getting down to nitty gritty and getting on with it.

Execupundit has a great post on this topic:

"The leader who blubbers about every problem he or she encounters is not doing the team any favors. The team members have their own problems and should not be unduly burdened with the leader's challenges. The reverse is also true."

It is downright selfish. 

I see it and understand it a little better in children.  Like the kid who waits until he feels like getting the project completed or the sulker who doesn't feel like giving effort.  The proper attitude training starts here with three words:  Suck it up.
 

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  • 5/20/2008 8:15 AM David wrote:
    It's like you said in a different context many years, ago, "He just got busy talking; it wasn't supposed to mean anything." Some people talk, not to communicate but to relieve their feelings. It's like farting in public.
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